Jump to ContentJump to Main Navigation
The Arc of LoveHow Our Romantic Lives Change over Time$
Users without a subscription are not able to see the full content.

Aaron Ben-Ze'ev

Print publication date: 2019

Print ISBN-13: 9780226633909

Published to Chicago Scholarship Online: January 2020

DOI: 10.7208/chicago/9780226634067.001.0001

Show Summary Details
Page of

PRINTED FROM CHICAGO SCHOLARSHIP ONLINE (www.chicago.universitypressscholarship.com). (c) Copyright University of Chicago Press, 2022. All Rights Reserved. An individual user may print out a PDF of a single chapter of a monograph in CHSO for personal use.date: 16 May 2022

A Balanced Diet Is the New Romantic Feast

A Balanced Diet Is the New Romantic Feast

(p.220) 13 A Balanced Diet Is the New Romantic Feast
The Arc of Love

Aaron Ben-Ze'ev

University of Chicago Press

This book has shown many phenomena whose coexistence in romantic relationships seems paradoxical: mild and wild intensity, sensitivity and indifference, distance and closeness, calmness and excitement, nurturing and preventing, as well as flexibility and stability. These apparent paradoxes stem from our desire to draw one comprehensive, consistent, intellectual picture for all people, all of the time. However, the dynamism and partiality of the emotional and romantic realms mean that emotional and romantic experiences can be radically mixed. Intense love expresses the excitement that we find at the very beginning, but it is time that ultimately allows for the blossoming of profound love. Unlike the notion of romantic fusion, healthy relationships leave lots of room for personal space and growth, but it is important to find a partner who supports your personal fulfillment. The “ideal” romantic relationship is one that helps both partners flourish. If there were any recipe at all, it would start with an optimal balance. Today’s romantic reality combines great diversity and restricted flexibility. While we cannot romantically indulge in everything we want and still stay healthy, we also do not need to go on a hunger strike. Adopting a moderate and balanced diet never killed anyone.

Keywords:   calmness, balance, closeness, distance, diversity, flexibility, indifference, moderation, sensitivity, stability

Chicago Scholarship Online requires a subscription or purchase to access the full text of books within the service. Public users can however freely search the site and view the abstracts and keywords for each book and chapter.

Please, subscribe or login to access full text content.

If you think you should have access to this title, please contact your librarian.

To troubleshoot, please check our FAQs, and if you can't find the answer there, please contact us.