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The Arc of LoveHow Our Romantic Lives Change over Time$
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Aaron Ben-Ze'ev

Print publication date: 2019

Print ISBN-13: 9780226633909

Published to Chicago Scholarship Online: January 2020

DOI: 10.7208/chicago/9780226634067.001.0001

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Sexual Relationships

Sexual Relationships

(p.163) 10 Sexual Relationships
The Arc of Love

Aaron Ben-Ze'ev

University of Chicago Press

Sex is of considerable importance in intimate relationships, and hence sometimes takes place even when one partner does not really want it. One option in these circumstances is to allow the partner to find sexual satisfaction outside of the relationship; another option is to participate in one-sided sex, such as pity sex or peace-inducing sex. Sexual generosity, in the sense of allowing your partner to have another sexual partner, can be problematic if it damages the primary relationship. Instances of makeup and breakup sex are highly emotionally driven and often experienced as very positive. Sex seems essentially different from eating because of the intrinsic value of human beings. Junk food and junk sex, however, have a lot in common. Sexuality is significant in promoting enduring romantic relationships. Sexual experiences, such as after-sex affectionate activities and sexual afterglow, connect the momentary peak of the orgasm with a longer process, enhancing enduring love. Cyberlove and cybersex provide more flexible boundaries than real-life love and sex. Online social networks have increased the number of people we are in touch with, but cannot keep the profundity of a traditional friendship. Hence, it is unclear whether they reduce loneliness.

Keywords:   affairs, afterglow, boundaries, cyberlove, food, generosity, loneliness, online, sex, network

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