The Romantic Connection
The Romantic Connection
Romantic belonging does not imply one partner possessing another, but rather a natural part of the couple’s interactions and development. The connection between love and marriage has become more complex in contemporary society. Marriage was primarily designed to fulfill pragmatic goals. Once love, and then personal fulfillment, were introduced as ideals in marriage, the quality of marriages rose, but so did the failures to achieve love and personal fulfillment. This has led to an increase in marriage breakdown. Two senses of a perfect partner are being flawless and most suitable. Accordingly, two major approaches assessing the nature of the partner are the comparative and uniqueness approaches. While both are common in romantic choices, the uniqueness approach is more significant in enduring romantic relationships. Although partners can be replaced, love is not like a library book; you cannot replace your partner every week. Romantic drifting is often unable to provide romantic stability and depth. In other circumstances, drifting enables a slow but steady process of cooking to deepen romantic profundity. Slowly comes, slowly (if at all) goes. Profound love involves autonomy and equality. When people perceive their partner as unequal to them, envy and extramarital affairs are more likely to emerge.
Keywords: autonomy, drifting, envy, inequality, marriage, replaceability
Chicago Scholarship Online requires a subscription or purchase to access the full text of books within the service. Public users can however freely search the site and view the abstracts and keywords for each book and chapter.
Please, subscribe or login to access full text content.
If you think you should have access to this title, please contact your librarian.
To troubleshoot, please check our FAQs, and if you can't find the answer there, please contact us.